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Broken Relationships - Ouch !
Relationships - Ouch !
Broken

I can’t stand that person. She’s really mean and she hurts my feelings. It seems
as if nothing I do or say makes her/him happy. I’m at a loss and don’t know what
to do.” Have you ever felt this way? You are not alone.
It’s Not My Fault
Studying with Wayne Dyer & Ram Das I learned that life is all about how we
choose to experience the actions of others. Did you know you have a choice?
We think it’s the other guy but that’s not true. “No way.” You might say. “This
never would have happened if he hadn’t done or said that.” But the reality is that
it’s you who decides the outcome of your relationships. It’s you who decides
that you’ve been hurt. That’s why we take the behavior of others so personally.
Actually, each relationship is a challenge and a wonderful opportunity to enhance
the growth of your soul.
The Root of Relationship Pain

At the root of every relationship pain is your expectation. Ask yourself, “What do
I expect from that person? What expectation was violated that made me angry?”
Think about it carefully because the secret to maintaining good relationships is to
evaluate your own expectations.
Heart-Based Communication Will Change Your Life
Here’s the secret to overcoming relationship anger and pain. Try Softening your
expectations by letting the other person know your needs ahead of time.
Expectations make us miserable because they are rarely met. The answer to
resolving relationship pain is to think with your heart, when reviewing ugly chal-
lenges, and not your head. Try letting go of your expectations and think about
the needs of others? Ask yourself, “What does my heart want& what would it say?”

Three Steps to Relationship Success
1. Think first with your heart and not your
head, to soften your own behavior.
2. Listen carefully to the words others share,
to determine the real meaning behind
the message.
3. Review your expectations, to become
Dr Shirlene Reeves aware of the challenges others experience
Spiritual Therapist as your friend.

If you want peace, you have the power to be the peace maker.
Relationship Classes are coming to San Felipe.
Call to reserve your seat or ask for relationship support: 925-335-6077

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