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Broken Relationships - Ouch ! For the volunteers, the world is their stage, their acts of kindness, a lasting heritage.
Relationships - Ouch !
Broken
They make a difference, one life at a time, and inspire us all to be sublime.
I can’t stand that person. She’s really mean and she hurts my feelings. It seems Q A Green with Martin
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as if nothing I do or say makes her/him happy. I’m at a loss and don’t know what by E.C. Trujillo
to do.” Have you ever felt this way? You are not alone. As I walk into Rosita’s restaurant, I am warmly welcomed by Martin Romo and his beautiful
It’s Not My Fault wife Angela. Immediately I am at ease in the presence of a gentleman whom I only know
Studying with Wayne Dyer & Ram Das I learned that life is all about how we about through his Facebook page, but whom I am impressed by, since I have seen everything
choose to experience the actions of others. Did you know you have a choice? he does for the community. So getting this chance to get to know him is a great delight.
We think it’s the other guy but that’s not true. “No way.” You might say. “This Q. Hi Martin, tell me a bit about yourself...... how did you ended up calling San Felipe home?
never would have happened if he hadn’t done or said that.” But the reality is that A. I was born in San Ignacio, BCS, in 1988, when I was in prep school, we moved to San
it’s you who decides the outcome of your relationships. It’s you who decides Felipe and this has been my home ever since. As we got older, my siblings and I opened
that you’ve been hurt. That’s why we take the behavior of others so personally. Rosita’s restaurant, which has become a staple in our port for many decades, and which
has afforded me the ability of having some time to do community projects. Since I am of a
Actually, each relationship is a challenge and a wonderful opportunity to enhance curios mind, I started learning English in primary school which served me well, as I went to a
the growth of your soul. University. And then, of course being bilingual helped me very much when I started the San
The Root of Relationship Pain Felipe United Program SFU.

At the root of every relationship pain is your expectation. Ask yourself, “What do Q. What got you involved in doing community work?
I expect from that person? What expectation was violated that made me angry?” A. First, and most important reason has been my 3 children; my wife and I started volunteer-
Think about it carefully because the secret to maintaining good relationships is to ing since our children were in preschool, doing anything from building and painting class-
evaluate your own expectations. rooms, to landscaping and creating green areas for the kids to play. As I got involved more
Heart-Based Communication Will Change Your Life and more helping at my children’s school, I realized I could be of great help by volunteering at
the Parents Association, and so I did become the President of the association in elementary,
Here’s the secret to overcoming relationship anger and pain. Try Softening your then middle and finally high school. As I continued getting more involved in the community, it
expectations by letting the other person know your needs ahead of time. was evident how much need we are all surrounded by, and in 2010, after the big earthquake
Expectations make us miserable because they are rarely met. The answer to in Mexicali, we notice how much need was in the city after that event and I knew there was
resolving relationship pain is to think with your heart, when reviewing ugly chal- another opportunity to help; so with a group of church kids, we started doing street collections
lenges, and not your head. Try letting go of your expectations and think about to purchase food, water and items needed for daily use in a household, and those boxes of
the needs of others? Ask yourself, “What does my heart want& what would it say?” goods were delivered to the needy. After seeing all that needed I made a promise to myself
to help the needy and my community, and it was from those experiences that the San Felipe
Three Steps to Relationship Success United Program was born..
1. Think first with your heart and not your Q. Tell me about the San Felipe United program?
head, to soften your own behavior. A. This is a 100% volunteer program which runs year-round and it is designed to make San
2. Listen carefully to the words others share, Felipe a more beautiful seaport and city. We plant trees, we clean streets, we revitalize areas.
to determine the real meaning behind
the message.
3. Review your expectations, to become
Dr Shirlene Reeves aware of the challenges others experience
Spiritual Therapist as your friend.

If you want peace, you have the power to be the peace maker.
Relationship Classes are coming to San Felipe.
Call to reserve your seat or ask for relationship support: 925-335-6077

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